Thursday, April 16, 2009

Getting "Picked up" at the Park...by other Moms



From Mama Kat's Writing Workshop: I chose to write about #5 prompt which is...
"Tell us about that time at the park when that thing happened."

I was a working mom for the first two years of Moe's life. Unfortunately hours were very long and not a lot of time to spend with my little boy. So, on my days off, I would take him to the park. I loved playing with him and my focus was only on Moe. I wasn't interested in meeting other moms. My son and I would go "Park Hopping" and each time, I was approached by desperate moms. I got asked the typical questions and this is what they were:

- Sooo.....do you come by here a lot?

- Are you new? I've never seen you here before?

- Do you want to come to my place after this?

- Want a cookie?

- Do you swing?

- Do you think I can get your number?

- Let's get together for a play date.

I just wanted to be left alone and spend time with my little boy. I had to keep my eyes from rolling when I would see a smiling mom approach me. I've already rehearsed a few lines to let them down gently. I didn't want them to think it was personal. The usual line I would say would be, "Look it's me, it has nothing to do with you. Somewhere out there is another nice mom like yourself."


And then Moe turned 3 and I quit the work force. I became a full fledged stay at home mom and loved it, but really missed the adult interaction. Being a stay at home can be lonely! Where can I meet other moms like me? Of course...the park! I dressed Moe up in trendy play clothes and made sure I looked nice too. And we would go "Park Hopping." I chose parks that had lots of moms and because rejection is hard to take, I picked moms that looked friendly and approachable, and whose kids were about Moe's age. I'm not really good at coming up with original lines, and just use a simple opener....


"Soooo....do you come by here often?"

17 comments:

Wendy said...

loved your story...: ) made me smile

Mother Goose said...

so funny! so funny and I like this memory sparker assignment that you have. LOL, I was a park hopper too and I saught after mothers who had children my children's ages, but I only spoke to the parent if I liked how their kid interacted with mine. If I saw a momma coming my way I never fled. I would listen, nod and then depending if I was nodding in I LIKE THIS CHIC or nodding off, then if it was the latter I would GO all KUNG FU PANDA on her and chuckle as she scurried away with her precious young. LOL

septembermom said...

I know about feeling like hiding from the "park moms". And I also know what it is like trying to start up some conversation. When I was a kid, my mom just sent us outside and we set up our own play dates with whoever was around. Now moms do have to be their kids' social planners. It can be exhausting at times:)

♫ Spasm ♫ said...

LOVE this post LOL

Kristina P. said...

Wow! Who knew that the park was like a kiddie bar, where people try to pick you up!

The Crazy Coxes said...

"Do you swing?" Love it!

Sassy said...

Hey...I ♥ to swing....come to my park! You are too funny...I love these little mind/memory jogging thoughts and questions...what a fun class! This blog is now my playground where I meet new friends...."So do you come here often?" I know I do....this stupid little computer which use to be the most expensive solitaire machine now houses some of my newest and dearest friends...

wenderful said...

I can totally relate to this. I'm afraid I don't do the pick up very well. I need to polish up on my lines.
Thanks for stopping by. I think I may have visited once via blah, blah, blog, maybe?
Maybe we'll run into each other again. Want a cookie? :)

Melinda said...

"want a cookie?" I don't care how weird they were or how much I missed my kids. That cookie would be mine. hahaha This was hilarious!

Diva Ma said...

Even though I am at home, I still sometimes find myself hiding from those moms that look like they wanna talk and make conversation. I have 3 kids and I'm still not really much of a "play group" type girl. But you are right, it certainly gets lonely without adult interaction!

"FINE"al thoughts... said...

Love loved loved this post! Your writing style is great. Very refreshing...ahhh--this is why I love to blog! And as a Mom of 5 kids I can proudly say I have never hit on any othe moms at the park...but oh, girl, does it ever happen at church!

Heatherlyn said...

Oh, that was very clever! I've never been approached at a park! I probably have too many kids. I bet this scares other moms away! :) Thanks for stopping by my blog! It's always fun to meet new bloggers.

Life with Kaishon said...

Oh my gosh! You are SO funny! So, so funny! I always wondered why there were so many FRIENDLY mommy's at the parks we went to too. It could get a little crazy! It always feels good to get picked up though, doesn't it : ).

Heather said...

How funny.. love the "pick up" lines!! Your blog is absolutely adorable! I will definitely be back!! :)

Michelle said...

Oh my goodness, you are so beautiful!

Thanks for visiting my blog yesterday. I love Mama Kats writing workshops, arent they fun.

Mama Kat said...

Oh my gosh this is cracking me up! You totally became THAT mom. I'm always cooped up in the house with the daycare kids so I've never met those moms. I just sit in my house and find them on the internet. :)

Jenni Jiggety said...

The other moms have always scared me!